Category Archives: personal and social development

Health and well-being

Last June 19 – 22 was Well-Being Week at the European Parliament and there were exhibitions and information sessions held to inspire and help people to be healthy and happy. June 21 was Music Festival not only in France and Luxembourg but in many parts of the world, and it made many people joyful. June 22 was UN International Yoga Day and it highlighted the useful contribution of yoga to humankind’s healthy lifestyle that is harmonious with nature. In Luxembourg, the 23rd was a public holiday as it was the country’s national day filled with festivities, food stalls, concerts, fireworks and merrymaking.

These were different events, but had similar goals, which were to inform, entertain and encourage people to relax and be peaceful– important for our well-being. When we are happy and peaceful, we are stressed-resistant and our immune system functions favourably maintaining a healthy body and mind. My adult students recently did a class project on health and well-being, and concluded that “Healthy workplaces are positive and positive workplaces are healthy.”

You may argue that achieving a work-life balance isn’t easy as it doesn’t only involve you and there are issues beyond your control, such as a demanding job and/or boss. Rightly so, however, this one person (YOU) has choices. We can have positive daily work experience in the midst of deadlines, not-so-caring supervisor and uncooperative or annoying colleagues. At home, relationships can be improved by having open communication, by being honest and respectful, and by showing more empathy and understanding. We have different levels of optimism, but even a half-empty glass has a space that can be filled. If everyone contributes to filling this, it does not take long for it to be full again.

On the global level, The World Economic Forum (Matthieu Ricard https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2015/09/5-ways-to-improve-the-well-being-of-the-world/) has identified 5 ways to improve health and well-being: Increasing support to mental health (addressing mental ailments account for only a small part of the health budget of developed nations); Cooperation (need to move to the next level of partnership to face the many challenges of our times. Solidarity and reciprocity that nurture harmonious relationships); Caring economics (“economy must exist to serve society, not to be served by society. It must also benefit society as a whole”. There should be a pragmatic action to achieve a fair economy and long-term harmony); Promoting altruism (“Happiness and satisfaction are measured in terms of a generation, encompassing our life plan, our career and our family. Whether or not we are happy depends not only on external conditions but also on the ways in which our mind interprets these conditions as happiness or misery”); A new economic harmony (“a situation that guarantees everyone a decent way of life and reduces inequality at the same time as ceasing to exploit the planet at such a drastic rate.” Material abundance doesn’t equate to happiness and well-being.

My students entitled their class project “You only live once” — living to the fullest in terms of being healthy and happy, but without excesses. Did you know that the global consumption of alcohol was 6.3 litres of pure alcohol per person ages 15 and older in 2015, which was equivalent to 3 litres of beer (4 percent alcohol) a week? The highest consumption was in Europe and Central Asia (10.2 litres of pure alcohol per person a year); and lowest in the Middle East and North Africa (0.8 litres). (http://datatopics.worldbank.org/sdgatlas/SDG-03-good-health-and-well-being.html).

As you may know, too much alcohol drinking can take a serious toll on our health and well-being. For instance, it can weaken our immune system hence making our body susceptible to diseases. It’s summer time here in Europe and it’s a real temptation to grab a cold beer or softdrinks. The former is tonic but can also cause ill-health. According to the Harvard School of Public Health (www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/healthydrinks/focus.html), the long-term effects of artificially sweetened drinks on weight and health are unknown. Thus, if you drink these, be reasonable! Water is much cheaper and absolutely good for our body – about 8 glasses per day. You can, of course, quench your thirst by drinking coffee and tea without sugar or cream.The Harvard School of Public Health has also revealed that even 100% fruit juice should be consumed with moderation (no more than a glass a day) as though it has vitamins, it’s also high in calories.

Take care.. Enjoy your summer!

We’re all in the same boat

Happy Labour Day!

Four of my friends were born in April. When I was in Australia, April was a month of non-stop partying, gift giving and receiving, and catching up with relatives and acquaintances. It’s widely known that the birthstone of April is diamond. Meanwhile, it’s still a wonder why this fourth month of the year is called as such. One explanation refers to its Latin origin, Aprilis, which is derived from aperire meaning “to open” as in the opening or blossoming of flowers and trees throughout the month of April in Europe (the northern hemisphere). Another theory is that since Aphrilis is derived from the Greek “Aphrodite” and since months are often named for gods and goddess, it can be deduced that April is in honour of the Greek goddess of love (the Romans called this goddess ‘Venus’). (http://blog.dictionary.com/april/)

This year’s April, however, didn’t seem like a month of wealth (diamond) and love for many individuals and families. The Hunger Project reveals that 795 million people, which is one in nine persons in the world, do not have enough to eat; and 98% of the world’s undernourished people live in developing countries. (http://www.thp.org/knowledge-center/know-your-world-facts-about-hunger-poverty/)

Last April, you’d surely seen on TV the horrifying chemical attack in a Syrian town that prompted the US airstrikes, suicide bombing of the 2 Coptic Christian churches in Egypt, stolen truck driven by a terrorist into a store in a busy Swedish street, killing of a police officer in Paris, etc. I know none of the victims, nevertheless, these incidents have saddened me a lot and made me earthlier.

There’s only one planet Earth, and “we’re all in the same boat.” The loss of lives and sufferings due to crime and poverty contribute to more fears, anxiety and insecurity. On the other hand, these can bring individuals and communities together (and have done so).

No individual or nation thrives alone or in isolation. As such, there are many international alliances, e.g. The United Nations and its many bodies, European Union (EU), The Commonwealth, North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO), Asia Pacific Economic Cooperation (APEC), Association of Southeast Asian Nations (ASEAN), G7, G20, International Criminal Court, Organisation for Security and Co-operation in Europe (OSCE), etc.

Though it looks like a person is an insignificant fish in the ocean, individuals make up the whole; and we can’t anymore pass the buck around. There are simple and costless ways we can do to help prevent and tackle crime, climate change, safety, insecurity (all forms including poverty), inequality and other ills in our society. Voting during local and national elections for the person and party that address these issues seriously, for example, is never a small step. We’ve to think globally and act locally!

As with the Titanic in the 1900s, when one side of the ship/boat sinks (sooner or later) all other parts submerge into the bottom of the sea. Some passengers may survive due to their quick thinking and surviving skills, sacrifices of loved ones and strangers, just pure luck or their own selfish acts; others perish; and many are left heart broken.

Sailing or travelling is smooth and peaceful, and we reach our destination with a grin, when no one or nothing rocks and/or destroys the boat. Let’s go an extra mile to smile, understand, cooperate, care and participate in making our neighbourhood (eventually our world) more liveable, sustainable and fun.

Our brains adapt and change

I hope 2017 has started well for you and your loved ones. I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions but believe that there’s always a room for improvement. So, in any day of any month, I try to deal with my faults and weaknesses. These imperfections make me wake up in the morning wanting to do something better than yesterday.

As you can see on the above photograph, I got a trophy 3 weeks ago for finishing 2nd among adult female participants at a chess tournament in Marange-Silvange, a commune 20 km from where I live in Moselle department in north-eastern France. From time to time, I join this kind of competition because it makes my avid-chess playing son happy and proud of his mum. As well, I find the atmosphere festive amid rivalry characterised by fair play, respect and camaraderie.

What pleases me most is watching children, as young as 5 years old, sitting for some time thinking, analysing and making decisions which pieces to move to corner their opponents’ Kings. For me, all players are winners because they learn and exercise discipline, accept or manage their wins and losses, and try to improve their future performances. Furthermore, spending a Saturday or Sunday afternoon playing and socialising is more productive, with long-term benefits, than being a couch potato — which is likely when the outside temperature is -5°C.

Though there’s been a widespread use of computer and video games, Internet entertainment and online socialising, individuals and families still get involved in group activities. According to http://www.therichest.com/rich-list/most-popular/the-top-10-most-sold-board-games-ever), the following are the most popular board games ever: 1. Chess 2. Checkers 3. Backgammon 4. Scabble 5. Monopoly 6. Clue (or Cluedo) 7. Othello 8. Trivial Pursuit 9. Pictionary and 10. Risk.

Except for Clue and Othello, I’ve played them all; and when I was at university my favourite was Scabble which was responsible for my many sleepless nights. During the first decade of my professional life, I used to play Risk with 2 close male friends who either tried to persuade me to form an alliance to get rid of the other player or accused me of being unfair for showing leniency to the other.

On the other hand, except for a few hours of self defense lesson required by my father and membership to a local gym, I’ve never been in any sports club or group. Sometimes I play lawn tennis with my family and bowling a few times a year, and wish I could ski.

As you probably know, football (US ‘soccer’) is the most played sports in the world. Cricket and field hockey come next then tennis, volleyball, table tennis, baseball, golf and basketball. (http://www.mostpopularsports.net)

Whether you are a board game or sport enthusiast, you are doing something that helps develop or strengthen your mind as these activities train you to be patient and resilient in the face of difficulty or inconvenience. Likewise, being with other people widens your social network that can also have a flow-on effect on your professional life; and of course, it entertains you that has positive psychological and health benefits. It’s never too late to start a leisure activity or hobby, and why not a board game? Most towns and cities have local clubs that welcome new members.

I’d spoken with many chess players during tournaments and they told me that they started playing at home with their relatives or friends (or friends of friends) during family gatherings, through encouragement by teachers and classmates, watching the game or sport live on TV/movie/online, and living near the club or tournament.

Whatever game or sport we decide to do, let’s bear in mind that, as Dr. Doidge has said, not all activities are equal. “Those that involve genuine concentration—studying a musical instrument, playing board games, reading, and dancing—are associated with a lower risk for dementia. Dancing, which requires learning new moves, is both physically and mentally challenging and requires much concentration. Less intense activities, such as bowling, babysitting, and golfing, are not associated with a reduced incidence of Alzheimer’s.” (Dr. Norman Doidge is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, researcher and author at the University of Toronto’s Department of Psychiatry and New York’s Columbia University’s Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research).

Dr. Doidge has also said that “The brain is a far more open system than we ever imagined, and nature has gone very far to help us perceive and take in the world around us. It has given us a brain that survives in a changing world by changing itself.” (http://www.azquotes.com/author/18876-Norman_Doidge).

PS:My website was down for a while for reasons unknown to me, and it took a few days to fix it.Our brains adapt and change

Surprises, wonders and hope

Happy New Year!

December 2016 was an unusual Christmas for me because I had received an unexpected, generous gift from someone who’s not a friend or relative. When I opened the envelope, I thought it was handed to me by mistake, so the next time I saw her I tried to return it. With the sweetest smile, she said “it’s not a mistake, it’s for you from Santa.” A week later, I still couldn’t believe and accept such a present. What did I do to deserve such kindness? This act of generosity propelled me to do the same, and I was even more blessed. I was so joyful to see the sparkling eyes of contentment and happiness of those I shared my blessings with.

The year 2016 has just ended, and it’s quite a challenge trying to find words to describe it. It has been a tough year for several people whose friendship I value (i.e. losing parents and family members, colleagues, etc.) This reminds me, as in other gloomy situations, that I should not neglect my family and friends, and be greatly grateful for what I’ve.

As well, I should look at the glass half full, and not half empty, even in surprisingly polarising events, such as Brexit in the UK and Donald Trump’s election as the US president. The situation in Syria’s Aleppo is dehumanising and unbearable, and how can peace and security be restored there? Last month’s terrorist attacks in Europe and the Middle East resulted in the loss of many lives, which have contributed significantly to making the fear of migrants and refugees even worse. Consequently, insecurity in many facets and from different directions besets our society. On the other hand, there were inspiring events last year that have left a positive imprint, such as the Olympic Games in Rio de Janeiro with its Refugee Team (the first time in its history).

What could we have done better in 2016? There are things that we definitely can’t undo, however, these can serve as hard-earned lessons to be a good or better person. I won’t seek for perfection as “One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…..Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist” (Stephen William Hawking – born 8 January 1942, English theoretical physicist, cosmologist and author who has a rare early-onset, slow-progressing form of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis and uses a speech-generating device to communicate).

But, I’m persuaded that the following actions can make life more fun, fulfilling and challenging:

If you’re not happy with today, do something about it (i.e. willing to change).
Bury experiences that make you angry.
Be honest: the truth is easier to remember. The so called ‘white lies’ or an economised truths distort and can cause emotional pain to others.
Cultivate or have a sense of gratitude.
Stop making excuses and blaming others.
Avoid being cynical and defensive.
There are always two sides to every story, so listen to both.
Forgive
(What else?)

The above statements are easier written (said) than done; however, they are worth giving a go. If we don’t succeed the first time, let’s try again and again.

May you experience lots of love, joy, peace and good health in 2017 and beyond.
Take care!

Living charitably and wisely

It was a rainy day in the morning of November 5, and there was already a queue at our local theatre hall. A young lady opened the door and helped me find the umbrella rack. She said, “I’ve never seen these many people eager to donate blood, especially on a gloomy day like this.” I remarked, “It might be the warmth and dryness that have brought them here.”

After over an hour of waiting and filling in the 4-page questionnaire, the doctor told me politely that I could not donate blood because I’m less than 50kg. I was surprised and disappointed thus as soon as I got home, I checked online to make sure that it had nothing to do with reasons other than weight.

Yes, it’s true that donors are required to have the minimum weight of 50kg for a minimum of 400ml of blood for the blood bag to contain the sufficient therapeutic dose (as the doctor had explained to me).

I was really looking forward to it that I had ample breakfast to help me avoid feeling unwell or fainting; consequently, I had to delay lunch.

The Etablissement Français du Sang – EFS (French National Blood Service) is responsible for the collection of all types of blood donation and takes all precautions to ensure that donations (whether they be whole blood, platelet, plasma, and bone marrow or cord blood) are done in high quality and safety conditions for both donors and receivers.

While queuing I heard that about 14% of the French population donate blood annually. People between the ages of 18 and 70 can donate blood. After the age of 60, however, all donations require the approval of an EFS doctor.

I should have found out first about requirements for donors. I didn’t because I was certain I could as I’m in good health and don’t take any medication. If I had checked, I would have not gone there and written this blog.

One of the questions was: “Did you visit or live in Great Britain from 1980 to 1996?” Well, I couldn’t remember, so I ticked the “don’t know” box. (Blood donation is prohibited for people who have lived in Great Britain for over 12 accumulative months between 1980 and 1996 due to a theoretical risk of transmitting bovine spongiform encephalopathy or “mad cow’s disease”).

A friend later that night asked me why I wanted to donate blood. She nodded vehemently when I told her that it was one of the ways I could show my sons how to be caring, generous and considerate of others. Donated blood saves lives of many people and it’s a privilege to be part of this. As well, it has good health benefits.

One of the most-cited health benefits of donating blood is reduced risk of cancer and hemochromatosis (condition that arises due to excess absorption of iron by the body). Furthermore, donating blood helps reduce the risk of damage to liver and pancreas, reduce obesity and may improve cardiovascular health.

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO) (http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs279/en/):
• About half of the 112.5 million blood donations collected globally are from high-income countries (home to 19% of the world’s population).
• The rate of blood donation in high-income countries is 33.1 donations per 1000 people; 11.7 donations in middle-income countries and 4.6 donations in low-income countries.
• Up to 65% of blood transfusions in low-income countries are given to children under 5 years of age. In high-income countries, the most frequently transfused patients are over 65 years of age (up to 76% of all transfusions).

It’s this time of the year (i.e. December) when we give or exchange presents. This traditional show of generosity and friendliness should extend beyond material possessions. Why not spend a few hours helping charities raise funds, feed the needy, etc.? How about donating blood? (If you’re a blood donor, you’re a hero to someone, somewhere, who received your gracious gift of life. https://viralknot.com/top-10-quotes-on-blood-donation-to-promote-blood-donation/).

May the rest of 2016 be peaceful and joyful for you and your loved ones. I greet you good health and happiness throughout 2017; and that all your needs be fulfilled and most of your wants granted.

They mean the same thing, don’t they?

What’s the difference between concentrate and focus? When do we use courier, and not carrier? How about comment and remark, fine and penalty, etc.? I quite enjoy responding to these questions without hesitation. Last week, however, when my colleague asked me whether or not optimism means happiness, it took me a while to say that optimistic people are not necessarily happy individuals (i.e. optimism doesn’t equate to happiness, and vice versa).

I’m a “half full glass” person, so I often see a plus rather than a minus that even in a negative situation, e.g. missing my bus by 2 minutes, I think “Every cloud has a silver lining.” I’ve always been like this, which helps me deal with the present. On the other hand, when it comes to the future, I’m a rational optimist.

Though I take responsibility for my decisions and actions, I believe that I’m not the only person involved in a situation that goes wrong. Likewise, I accept the reality that this ‘thing gone wrong’ has inconveniences (but only temporary – optimistic again).

Are optimistic people (“me” included) happy?

Optimism is a style of thinking and not a genetic attribute or permanent attitude, so it can be changed and learnt (as well as taught). Since optimism has good effects on mental health, professional success and personal gain, we don’t want to replace it with negativism (pessimism); do we?

Negativism leads to helplessness and undesirable self-fulfilling prophecy (i.e. expectation/thought that affects one’s behaviour causing this expectation/thought to come true). It, too, can be changed and learnt (as well as taught). But, who wants to be negative (pessimistic) knowing that it derails you from meeting your needs and achieving your goals?

“Research shows that happy and unhappy people generally have the same number of adverse events in their lives. The difference is in their interpretation of unfortunate life events. Optimistic people are willing and able to make positive life action plans to counteract negative events in their lives, while pessimists are more likely to do nothing, then find themselves sinking into negativism, lethargy, perhaps even depression.” Betty W. Phillips, Ph.D., Psychology (http://www.bettyphillipspsychology.com/id15.html seen on 16/10/16).

Being optimistic is a state of mind that has a positive effect on many aspects of our lives — e.g. you’ll live healthily and efficiently. Optimistic people are hopeful for a better situation or result.

Happiness, on the other hand, is an emotion (like sadness, anger and disappointment) and is biological in nature; it reinforces optimism.

Optimism is a by-product of happiness rather than a cause of it. (Optimistic individuals don’t give up easily; they are resilient).

I’m a rational optimist and not always happy. When I’m sad due to difficulties caused by other people, I keep my optimism high by motivational and inspiring quotes, which I use in any given opportunity, e.g. writing these on note pads and flip charts (sharing them with my students).

Going to the gym at least twice a week makes me happy and relieves tensions. I find it relaxing to watch movies at home or in the cinema/theatre once a week.

My job gives me a lot of satisfaction and joy. Every day, there’s something that makes me smile and gratified. This can be from simple to unusual gestures, such as giving and receiving words of thanks and appreciation, eating something I really fancy or have never tried before, reading, writing or having a drink with someone I like.

There are tons of write-ups on how to be happy and optimistic, thus I won’t replicate these here. However, I’d like to point out two issues that are relevant to any discussion about happiness and optimism. First, we’ve to go an extra mile to sleep at least 7-8 hours every night because a lack of sleep makes us moody, impatient and less energetic and alert. Second, it’s not easy to leave a gloomy past behind, which creates unhappiness and interferes with our efforts to become a better person, so how about getting rid of those associated with our toxic past?

“An optimist sees an opportunity in every calamity; a pessimist sees a calamity in every opportunity” — Winston Churchill

Donating and volunteering: For love of self and others

“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” ― Winston S. Churchill

In the first week of September, in Luxembourg, I had lunch with the funding member of ‘Dress for Success’ and my student who wants to join her in helping and empowering women. A few days later, I bumped into an acquaintance who has been teaching French to new arrivals in our region without financial remuneration. Two weeks ago, I attended a fundraising dinner and dance in a town about 10km from my city. It was a friendly atmosphere with men, women and children making sure that we would have a fantastic time, in addition to being busy collecting money for local charities and NGOs. Last week, through the encouragement of a friend, I went to the nearby park and was mesmerised by about a dozen tents with generous and smiling individuals selling and entertaining people for good causes.

As I write this article, I think of my friend who has always time for her environmental group doing information dissemination, pancake making and coordinating Christmas stalls; as well as my ex-student who founded ‘United by Dream Onlus,’ a humanitarian organisation aiding impoverished children and their families. Sometime in our lives, we are volunteers; however, some do more than others.

Why do we volunteer? Research and individual testimonies have revealed that volunteering has benefits for individuals and societies, and the main ones are: i) It gives the volunteer a sense of achievement and belongingness to a community; ii) Offers opportunity to meet diverse range of people and experiences; iii) It enhances social and relationship abilities; iv) Enables development and/or practice of new skills, hobbies and interests; v) Can boost your career; vi) It’s a rich resource for organisations to carry out their missions, thus helping less fortunate than we are or those in need.

When I was young, every time I thought about volunteering, going overseas flashed immediately into my mind. Well, there are plenty of occasions to do this locally, i.e. local service clubs, social centres, non-profit service associations, schools, etc. The first step is knowing what you want to do (taking into consideration your personality and interest) and match this with the organisation or cause.

According to the World Giving Index 2015, a research done by Gallup and Charities Aid Foundation, the five most generous nations in the world are: 1. Myanmar (92% of its inhabitants donated money in 2014. Although they gave a small amount, they did it daily as this is part of their Buddhist faith); 2. US (12th in the world for charitable donation but 76% of its population helped strangers); 3. New Zealand (4th in volunteering and its charitable money giving increased by 6%); 4. Canada (44% of its population offered time to volunteer); and Australia (Its charitable donation increased by 6% and time spent on volunteering by 3%). They are followed by The UK (6th), The Netherlands (7th), Sri Lanka (8th), Ireland (9th) and Malaysia (10th)(www.theguardian.com seen on 27/09/16).

Last year, Wealth-X and Business Insider produced the Generosity Index, a list of 20 most generous people in the world that included Microsoft co-founder Bill Gates (No. 1) donating US$27 billion in lifetime donations as of October 2015. The leading causes supported by the world’s biggest individual donors are education, health and medicine, social and humanitarian services, community development, and arts and culture (http://www.wealthx.com/articles/2015/worlds-20-most-generous-how-they-give/ seen 30/09/16).

Hong Kong business magnate Li Ka-shing, with US$1.4 billion in donations to date, has reportedly spent over US$770 million to establish and support Shantou University, the only privately funded public university in China. Facebook founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg has made education one of his primary causes; his first act of large-scale philanthropy was donating US$100 million worth of his Facebook shares to Newark, New Jersey public school system in 2010.

Retail magnate Charles Francis Feeney, who has donated US$6.3 billion to date, has pledged US$177 million to the University of California at San Francisco (UCSF) and Trinity College Dublin to create the Global Brain Health Institute aimed at battling the quick rise of dementia.

Pierre Omidyar, co-founder and current chairman of eBay, started the Omidyar Foundation with his wife Pamela in 1998; and this couple have reportedly invested US$115 million in Humanity United (under the Omidyar Foundation umbrella), which supports 85 anti-slavery nonprofit and on-the-ground projects in five countries, including Nepal.

Eight of 20 philanthropists on the list included community development among their principal causes, e.g. Bloomberg’s $42 million “What Works Cities” project aims to help 100 mid-sized American cities enhanced their use of data to improve the lives of residents and boost government transparency.

Twenty five percent of those in the “Most Generous” list have supported arts and culture, which is ahead of the environment (four out of 20) and religion (3 out of 20). KB Home co-founder and former SunAmerica CEO Eli Broad has been an active patron of the arts, and recipients of his generosity include the Museum of Modern Art (MoMA), Museum of Contemporary Art (MOCA) and The Metropolitan Museum of Art.

It’s easy to give when you have a lot.. a surplus. However, not all those who have surpluses give significantly for the world’s betterment.

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”
― Charles Dickens

Is computer literacy a life’s necessity?

A few weeks ago, while researching for information on technological jargon for my intermediate class, I fell into a test on computer knowledge. I sometimes get into this spur-of-the-moment kind of thing and forget it in a blink. That test, however, turned out to be more than just an extemporaneous ego exercise. The result indicated that I only have average knowledge of computers (I’m being generous with myself as the average score on that day was 7.3/10 while I got only 7). For someone who has a website and blog regularly, has self-published a book and is active online, I thought I would be above average. I may not be a power user of new and advanced technology, but I’m certainly a computer literate.

Computer literacy (CL) refers to the ability to use computer applications rather than programs. How literate do we need in order to succeed professionally and make the most of life?

Australian public and private schools have computer science as a subject. For instance, the New South Wales public schools’ Year 6 students (their average age is 12 years) are taught and expected to have the following computer skills: Using computer-based technologies to manipulate, create, store and retrieve information to express ideas and communicate with others (Word Processing, Graphics and Multi-media); Using computer-based technologies to locate, access, evaluate, store and retrieve information (Spreadsheets and Databases) and to express ideas and communicate with others (Internet and Email); Downloading copy of document; Identifying hardware components,such as keyboard, mouse and screen (http://www.schools.nsw.edu.au/learning/k-6assessments/csa6ictskills.php).

Not long ago, I read a report saying that in the USA as much as 60% of schools issue laptops or tablets to their students.

There was no computer science or information technology subject in my high school days (and we didn’t have electronic gadgets at home). To date, there are still children in developing and developed countries who don’t have the privilege of being taught this subject at school. Unlike in developing nations (due to lack of or inadequate funding), however, having computer subjects and labs in schools is a choice in developed countries.

In the French public education system, the absence of computer in the majority of classrooms is more cultural than monetary. The pedagogy is still traditionally based on memorisation, writing (with its famous regular dictée and use of handwriting analysis for employment purposes) and centralised curriculum.

According to the Guardian, the London Acorn School bans its pupils from using smartphones and computers and watching TV at all times, including during holidays. Children of this school “are not allowed television at all before the age of 12, after that they are allowed documentaries that have previously vetted by parents. They cannot watch films until they are 14; the internet is banned completely for everyone under 16 at home and at school – and computers are only to be used as part of the school curriculum for over 14s” (https://www.theguardian.com/education/2015/sep/29/the-no-tech-school-where-screens-are-off-limits-even-at-home).

The Guardian quoted the finding of a global study by the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) that investing heavily in computers and new technology in the classroom did not improve pupils’ performance, and frequent use of computers is associated with lower results. As well, there have been concerns about the disruptive effect of the use of mobile phones and iPads in the classroom and the potential negative impact of social media on young people.
On the other hand, we’ve heard a lot about how technology and the use of computer have broadened minds, have enhanced teachers’ skills, strategies and knowledge, and are more fun and interesting for students.

I believe that, in our current society, we need to be computer literate to be able to accomplish specific tasks; simplify (but not complicate) life; save (but not waste) time; improve communication and interpersonal skills (but not limit or jeopardise these); and encourage creativity (but not illegality).

Accordingly, my mediocrity in computers and information technology is not a handicapped but an opportunity as I don’t fully depend on it for my personal, social and professional satisfaction and happiness.

Not always whiter and greener

My friend’s daughter always complains about the heat in Brisbane and has said to me how she would love to live in cold Europe. She doesn’t like her air-conditioned car and looks forward to skiing. My Belgian acquaintances find winter miserable and think it is a paradise to use the outdoor swimming pool and visit the nearby beach any time you feel like it.

A former neighbour recently confided to me about unmet expectations in her new job. She described in detail her uneasiness working with native-English speakers (she’s French) which, ironically, was one of the main reasons why she left the Francophone working environment (i.e. she wanted to improve her English by speaking it every day).

When I visit Singapore or Philippines, I observe smilingly women snuggling under their umbrellas not necessarily to prevent from having skin cancer but to avoid getting browner/darker. In western countries, however, men and women spend a lot of time and money trying to get tanned as it is considered good and healthy looking.

Many parents, particularly women, are caught between staying at home to care for their children and working to augment family income. Stay-at-home parents argue that the relationship between babies/young children and parents is fundamental in personality development. On the other hand, working parents maintain that the child/day care environment has a positive impact on the children’s intellectual and social skills. I have heard stories of women who became depressed after a few years in purely parenting commitment. Likewise, I know of several individuals who are happier and healthier now that they are not in the workforce.

Generally, human beings are never satisfied with what they have thus this saying “It’s greener on the other side.” Often, we feel and think that the quality and quantity of goods, services, needs (essential to maintain life, such as clean water and food) and wants (make our lives enjoyable and interesting but we can do without) can be better.

It’s understandable that individuals wish for improvement. However, extreme change has to be thought of carefully and manage intelligently as we often see what we want to see, which can be limited and biased. Often, what looks like white (a colour which is associated with certainty, safety, happiness and purity) is actually ivory or cream.

When deciding to change because it’s greener on the other side, we should use both our intuition and reason, and get the emotion out of the equation. We can’t react to a situation based on what we feel neglecting facts and figures. Bad decisions have been made due to too much or not enough information and too much or absence of emotional attachment. Decision making is founded on our values. Our values are influenced by our experiences, circumstance, family, friends, teachers, classmates and others we meet along the way. It is a skill that serves us for the rest of our lives, therefore, should be handed down to younger generations; and because in every decision we make (either trivial or important), there are social, economic and psychological implications.

My December 2015 article was “Solidarity Amid Insecurity” in honour of the victims of terrorism in Paris. Brussels experienced a similar carnage ten days ago and Lahore (Pakistan) five days ago. I’ve no word to describe these terrible crimes, but would like to quote Salman Rushdie: “How do you defeat terrorism? Don’t be terrorized” (Step Across This Line: Collected Nonfiction 1992-2002).

Leap year, Valentine’s day and more

I hope that 2016 has started very well for you. Definitely, it has for me: I am spoilt being in Queensland (the third largest state in Australia) with its weather suited to outside entertainment and activities (e.g. only a sliding door and a compulsory gate separate our living area from the inground swimming pool).

I am not into major or radical resolutions because often these are likely to be short-lived, but I have set myself some not-so-small goals (i.e. connecting more to myself and traditions involving those around me, i.e. restore, enhance or even renaissance). Of course, I will continue to exercise at least 150 minutes/day, eat my veges & fruits and take everything in moderation (including uotopiloting). Last year, while waiting in the dentist’s practice in Brisbane (3rd populous city in Australia), I read an article that said it’s essential to have at least three holidays a year (which are not necessarily travels abroad) to de-stress. These holidays (e.g. farm stay, hotel lodging, staycation) should focus on our physical, mental and emotional well-being (obviously).

January 26 was Australia Day and there were fantastic celebrations with fireworks and musical shows all over the country. While working for Multicultural Affairs Queensland (formerly Bureau of Ethnic Affairs), we had fun coming up with definitions of an Australian; and my updated version is something like this: Being Australian is driving a Japanese or European car to an Irish pub to drink a Belgian beer; then on the way home grab an Indian takeaway or have Yum Cha at a Chinese restaurant; at home sits on a Swedish furniture watching an American TV program or film on a German TV while texting or Facebooking in a gadget with components from Malaysia or Philippines.

February (the shortest month of the year) is my fourth favourite month. In 2016, there are 366 days (a common year has 365 days) because February has 29 days, and not 28 (this happens once in every four years) – known as leap year. February is actually a busy month: to name a few – – the 4th is World Cancer Day, 5th is Rio Carnival and 8th is Chinese New Year. The first day of lent and forty-day-season of Christian praying and fasting is also this month; and February 14 is not only Valentine’s Day but National Impotence Day (to create awareness of erectile dysfunction).

The 68th British Film Awards, which is also known as the BAFTAs, will be held on the 14th at the Royal Opera House n London; the 58th Grammy Awards on the 15th at the Staples Centre in Los Angeles; and the 88th Academy Awards, known as the Oscars, on the 28th at the Dolby Theatre in Hollywood, California. Most importantly, let’s not forget that the Random Act of Kindness Day (to instill kindness among people regardless of age, gender, ethnic origin, national belonging and life’s circumstance) is on the 17th.

An 82 year old friend has recently sent me this email:
MY PARENTS & GRANDPARENTS WERE LIVING DURING THIS TIME PERIOD (1915-16) – “One hundred years ago”. What a difference a century makes!
Here are some statistics for the Year 1915:
The average life expectancy for men was 47 years.
 Fuel for cars was sold in chemists only.
 Only 14 percent of the homes had a bath.
 Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
 The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
 The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower.
 The average British wage in 1915 was £15 per year!
 A competent accountant could expect to earn £800 ($1600) per year.
 A dentist £900 ($1800) per year.
 A vet between £600 and £900 ($1200- $1800) per year.
 And, a mechanical engineer about £2000 ($4000) per year.
 More than 95 percent of all births took place at home
 Ninety percent of all Doctors had no university education!
 Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which were condemned in the press AND the government as “substandard.”
 Sugar cost two pence a pound.
 Eggs were 10 pence a dozen.
 Coffee was five pence a pound.
 Most women only washed their hair once a month, and, used Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
 Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from entering into their country for any reason.
 – Five leading causes of death were:
1. Pneumonia and influenza
2. Tuberculosis
3. Diarrhoea
4. Heart disease
5. Stroke
 The American flag had 45 stars.
 The population of Las Vegas, Nevada was only 30.
 Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and iced tea hadn’t been invented yet.
 There was neither a Mother’s Day nor a Father’s Day.
 Two out of every 10 adults couldn’t read or write and, only 6 percent of all British pupils went to university.
 Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at local corner chemists.
Back then chemists said, “Heroin clears the complexion, gives buoyancy to the mind, regulates the stomach, bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health!” (Shocking?)
 Eighteen percent of households had at least one full-time servant or domestic help…
 There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE U.S.A.! In 2014 this figure had risen to 14,249.
 In the UK the murder rate in 1915 was 1420. In 2015 it was 537.
 I am now going to forward this to someone else without typing it myself.
 From there, it will be sent to others all over the WORLD all in a matter of seconds!
 Can you imagine what it may be like 100 years from now?